Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Today’s Adolescents

In a world of Hyper Sexualized media, instant gratification and absolute reality, how does a person learn to function.
For those of us born on the bubble of this time frame, I am coming to learn we may have the easiest time adapting for the in between stages.
It seems that the more people I talk with that are older find my understanding of Adolescent's and their behavior far too tolerant.
I grew up with a beeper, then a pager and then onto a cell phone. Today children miss the beeper, move to the Wi-Fi cell phone. Much of my research over the past few years has led me to understand that this means a faster, more needed response to one another, and added stress due to communication gaps.
Today, we live in a world in which Reality is instant; it changes every few minutes, hours and sometimes days. Our brains are learning to restructure, almost as fast as the modern pc does.

Society is amazed at what they see on their local news station. I wander why they are so amazed. We have lost control of time, place and person. Each person is an individual now, with nothing more than words to change their mind. Language is power and offers us the norms of culture. For the modern adolescent, techno speak and text messaging is the new language. The effort we need to make is perhaps educate ourselves in the stressors they go through in order to understand that much more. Adolescent's behavior is not wrong, it is just very different.

In another view, parents today are washing their hands with adolescents. People are not mentally older, but they are becoming socially older at a younger age due to having to survive. Many parents are working late at night or bringing work home, others are just too tired to help when they get home. This is a new version of the individualized society. As the adolescent grow, mature and face a very fast paced world of change and reality, so it should be the responsibility of the parents and the system to help where appropriate. Parents should be parents and learn how to help out their own child at all phases of life. Teachers should be teachers, and allowed to work as such. Offering care is important, but there is now an expectation of Teachers as parents with some teaching. This is something that needs to change and find balance. Students need to be students and learn from a young age to have respect for themselves, their family and their environment.

If we can find a way to bring balance back to our society, we may be able to find our way back into a positive cycle that much faster.

1 comment:

Anthony said...

You hit on a lot of valid points here. The way that parents function in todays society is much different than in past generations. Gone are the days of the Nine to Five work week and people having weekends off. So teens of the next generation are going to have a much different experience than what we had. Only time will tell what will happen, and how this will change the next generation , but one thing is certain I do not think it will be for the better. Moreover we as a people need to look at what we give up for monetary gain. Other western societies have a work to live not live to work. I know that if I have a child I will want to spend as much time as with them as possible I only live once. I'm not saying it is not great to want to do well in a job and make money . but more at what cost , and where do we find this work life balance. It is necessary in todays economy to have the both parents work , but I think having a "House Wife/Dad would make for a more balanced individual.

P.S. the black on black text is no bueno